How do you respond to newfangled ideas in the church?
Has the term newfangled sprung to mind recently? That’s a sure sign you’re ready to institute this spiritual discipline.
Our generation faced extreme resistance from the established generation when we advocated for change in the church. Can we be any different? Can we be gray-haired champions of change?
Not long ago, a young dad from our church hoisted himself onto the chair lift to make the ascent to our sanctuary.
I was the only one standing near, so I offered to carry his wheelchair to the top landing. Which I did.
He expressed shock that I just lifted and carried it. Apparently people usually bump up the stairs one at a time.
Plus, believe me, I don’t look like a weightlifter.
But I am. In the interest of remaining physically independent into the coming decades, I have begun my little home system of lifting weights.
I saw many upsides to this new endeavor but now I see another—defying expectations of younger people. That’s just fun.
In February, I wrote about my years of practicing the spiritual disciplines I first learned from Richard Foster in 1978 (prayer, Bible study, Scripture meditation, fasting, solitude, simplicity). I also proposed the need to modify them and add some new disciplines in the third chapter of life.
Third Chapter Spiritual Disciplines acknowledge that we have different needs as we age, and we have different gifts to offer the body of Christ. In March, I wrote about Intentional Community as one new discipline I propose.
This month, I want to talk about the discipline I call Embrace New Ways, People, and Experiences.
Seriously, if you grew up in the sixties and seventies, we have to look in the mirror and ask what happens when the revolutionaries of the “change” generation are faced with too much change?
Our generation instituted contemporary worship music, casual dress, and friendship evangelism among other things. How will we react when we encounter a wave of young people insisting it’s time for even more change?
Sounds like a card from that fight game that poses questions like who would win in a fight between George Washington with invisibility and nuclear capability or a child beauty pageant star who could use the force? (Clearly, the child pageant star. Feel free to disagree in the comments.)
I remember all too well the bumpy ride of our generation trying to “sing a new song” to the Lord. We were met with accusations of bringing “the devil’s music” into the church and “lowering the bar” of Sunday clothes. I wasn’t a rebellious teen by any means, but I did stake my own territory by sneaking in torn jeans to wear on Easter Sunday while singing in the front of the church (didn’t go over well with my dad in his suit).
We may now have an all-too clear understanding of the challenge unbidden change can bring. It’s one thing to initiate change. It’s entirely another story when change is thrust upon us. Surviving it, though, happens first in the way we think.
Change and growth are evidence of life. Jesus is alive. His Body is alive. Our bodies are always growing and changing. If the church isn’t growing and changing, that’s evidence of decline that leads to death.
Jesus is the living vine, and we are the branches. Branches that bear no fruit are cut off. Don’t be that branch!
If we consciously commit to the spiritual discipline of Embrace New Ways, People, and Experiences, we will resist the temptation to live in fear of others proposing change.
Not all change is wise or good but if we battle against every change, we lose our voice in the conversation. When we are known as initiators of change and supporters of growth, then we are better heard in those times when we take a stand against foolishness, heresy, and change for passing fashions’ sake.
I’ve had amazing role models for this. My dad remained an active fire chief until he was 79, learning new equipment and methods until his last day. My former agent is in his nineties and still engaged with writing ministry, always needing to embrace new things. Our new pastor tried to retire but it just didn’t take and we’re grateful he’s ready to embrace a new congregation. My friend, Maggie Rowe, published her first book in her late sixties. My dear friend Lucinda’s final book will release after her death. That’s the way for a Christian writer to go home, with fresh ink on the page.
I’m learning to be edited by people more than 30 years younger than I am, to work with apps and other technology that sometimes overwhelm, to roll with words changing meaning, and to tolerate my teenage grandsons’ music streaming nonstop from the room beside my office. I’m also learning Spanish and screenwriting to keep learning muscles from atrophy. In the church, I’m learning to listen to the next generation and not immediately dismiss their experience or their input. I’m learning to seek out a chair at the table with people who don’t look like me.
But how do we do it? How do we continue to embrace change when everything is changing? Practice the spiritual discipline to Embrace New Ways, People, and Experiences.
We can do this if we choose to R.E.M.A.I.N. C.A.L.M.
Resist cantankerous, ornery, or crotchety thinking. (2 Corinthians 10:5)
Embrace wise change. (Ecclesiastes 7:10, Philippians 2:14)
Maintain sound theology. (1 Timothy 4:16)
Advocate for the heart needs of others and for yourself. (Proverbs 4:23) (It’s okay to say that hymns feed your heart or that hearing the Bible read in your language is important, too. Just make room for others.)
Inspire the next generation. (Psalm 71:18) (It never hurts to surprise them either!)
Never take your eyes of Jesus. Never focus more on the to-do’s than on the to-be’s. (Luke 10:41-42)
Communicate love and truth, just as Jesus did. Remember to grow up or to mature, is to change. (Ephesians 4:15)
Align your life with God’s Word. (Luke 11:28)
Laugh often. Love without hypocrisy. Let go of what doesn’t matter. (Philippians 4:4-7)
Make no mistake. He’s making all things new. Get ready for new. (Isaiah 43:19, Revelation 21:5)
What are your best strategies for managing your response to change?
Newfangled. Get ready for new! This Third Chapter Spiritual Discipline can help you keep up with change. https://t.co/SsZyppyyuf #aging #Jesus
— Lori Roeleveld (@lorisroeleveld) April 24, 2023
The Conversation
You have hit it; it is mostly a frame of mind.
I hold Psalm 92:14,15 close to my heart:
“They shall still yield fruit in old age;
They shall be full of sap and very green,
To declare that the Lord is upright;
He is my rock, and there is no unrighteousness in Him.”
I notice curmudgeon tendencies growing, as if my heart is calcifying, and while I do aspire to become a New England character who says what needs to be said and doesn’t care so much about how polite it is, I want to be supple until the end.
So, I really do pull that verse out as a measuring stick from time to time and see how I am doing. I certainly have had to rethink my stubborn views on the music we sing in church.
One of my favorite verses, especially as of late!
Thank you for this, Lori. God has me in a changing pattern again at 75! I’m still working almost full time as a Licensed Drug and Alcohol Counselor and just moved for the 10th time since 2000 and I feel God telling me that I won’t be in this area for a long time; that it is a period of rest for me. I am in a new state with the closest family member two hours away, so all by myself in a new place, but the Lord is with me and I feel he his calling me to something new. I have been working on writing a book since 2005 but working full time and raising my last child who I had at 40 has kept me too busy to finish the book. I feel that now is the time to finish it even though I am still working, I am working virtually which gives me more time and more flexibility. I felt Him speaking to me through your post, perhaps confirming that I am to finish writing about all the ways in which He has provided and guided me since asking him into my life in 1976. God bless you for the work that you do. All of your writings are filled with wisdom and truth and are an inspiration and encouragement to me.
Sounds like you’re hip deep in this spiritual discipline! If you’re on Facebook, be sure to check out my Elizabeth Writers (for Christian writers of a certain age) group. Lots of companionship for being an older writer!
Thank you!
You’re welcome!
Oh Lori. As always you’ve said what I am thinking without all my ADHD scrambling up my thoughts. You’ve described the feelings flowing through this old heart of mine. This weekend while Karen and I were early celebrating our 43rd “Happy Anniversary!” with family, a pastor friend from our old church, the one where we had met and in which we were married, suddenly dropped dead on Sunday morning and was found on the floor by his dear wife who must have been so scared and who must have felt so suddenly forsaken. So on the same weekend that Karen and I celebrated our long marriage, our old church family was thrust into grieving. Our new church is mostly a handful of people who all all even older than me and Karen, and the church pastor who had been there for the last five and a half years resigned on Palm Sunday and left the state with his family. Our denomination’s area director preached about change on Easter Sunday for the Sunrise Service. I’ve known the man for about ten years. At the breakfast after the service, I told him that “I’m the ‘change’ you preached about.” I meant it as a joke. He didn’t laugh and looked a little worried. At work, I sometimes feel like I’ve got one foot out the door and the other on a banana peel, but I’d like to keep working at least until I’m 70 which is only three and a half short years away. As you know, I’m in the midst of a spiritual as well as a legal battle, the hardest in of my life, with a case from hell where souls as well as lives are on the line. I was so disheartened last night when I woke around midnight and felt eviscerated. I couldn’t go back to sleep, and I remembered reading how David was in such great distress when his own men had wanted to stone him to death after enemy raiders had stolen everything they owned and had kidnapped all their wives and children, but David “strengthened himself in the LORD.” And I prayed, “whatever THAT means, Lord Jesus, please ‘strengthen’ me!” Then I slept three more hours and got up at three a.m. to read my Bible while Karen still sleeps and ready myself to face the giants waiting for me in this new day. But now . . . I know that won’t be facing them alone!
I am praying for protection for you and for the ones who need it on your current case. You are not alone, my friend. Jesus never leaves you nor forsakes you, as you well know, no matter how it feels in the middle of the night or in the middle of a legal battle.
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