There Is No Law Against Love (But, that’s not really the issue, is it?)

Have you ever learned something new – an instrument, an art, a sport – and chafed against the restrictions a tutor or coach placed on your practice?

You want to play Mozart or Green Day but your instructor wants you to practice scales.

You want to create a modern rendition of the Sistine Chapel but your tutor wants you draw your left hand from thirty different angles.

You’re ready to start in the big game so that scouts get a good look at the new talent but your coach won’t even let you touch the ball until you can run four miles.

You aspire to greatness but all you get are restrictions. These people have no vision. They can’t see the big picture. They’re so narrow-minded!

What the wise coach, instructor or tutor knows is that learning the discipline of an art or sport is the way to freedom in the expression of your talent. Throwing away the restrictions of rules, practice, lessons, and discipline does not result in freedom and greatness. Often, a talented pupil stunts his or her own growth by refusing to submit to discipline.

I believe this is true when we chafe against the laws laid out in the Bible. I won’t be coy, here, I’m talking about the rules around sexual expression.

God has a lot to say about who can sleep with whom. We’ve been discussing homosexuality but there are numerous Biblical laws and teachings that govern sexual expression of all kinds. Those who struggle with same-sex attraction are not the ONLY men and women who are restricted sexually. None of us is totally free to sleep with whomever attracts us whenever and however we feel like it.

What is often said regarding this topic is that no one should put limits on who a person loves. No one should stand in the way of love or of loving relationships. Certainly, God is all about love, isn’t He?

Absolutely. There is no law against love. We are called, by God, in Scripture, to love everyone from God to our neighbor to our enemy. There is no law against love.

But there are laws that govern the ways we express that love. Sexual acts are only ONE avenue for expressing love. Our current culture acts as though the sex act is the pinnacle of all loving expression. Not that sex isn’t great stuff, but c’mon, as humans we can certainly reach higher.

Love can be expressed in a myriad of ways – ways that are deeply satisfying, life giving, and mutually edifying without the exchange of a single body fluid. There are countless ways to love one another on this earth from fighting beside one another in foxholes, to bringing food to one another in famine, to laying down one’s life to save another.

We don’t always understand the restrictions God places on our relationships but could it be, that rather than trying to narrow and confine us, He’s trying to free us to a greater expression of the art of living and loving on earth?

Aren’t WE the ones being narrow-minded when we insist that we are only truly free to be ourselves if we can express our love to one another through some form of sexual intercourse? I’m speaking here to both gay and straight readers because we’re equally guilty of the same crime on this point.

We act as though any restrictions placed on the expression of our feelings through sexuality is somehow damaging to the very deepest part of our beings. And, while sexual identity is close to the core of who we are, there is much more to being a man or a woman than our sex organs and the exercise thereof.

I think that God is not calling us to be less – He’s inviting us to be more – more than we can even imagine until we let go of trying to control the process and willingly follow Him as the Master Instructor in the Art of Life and Love.

Yielding to His instructions on love, and yes, submitting to His rules regarding sexual expression of that love, is to learn composition from Mozart, painting from Michelangelo and football from (insert the name of the coach of your choice – mine is Bill Belichik).

He does not call us to be less – He invites us to be more – but we’re too busy thinking we’re ready to call the plays to even learn the game.

What say you?
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” Galatians 5:22-23
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  1. Felicia says:

    Lori – this is so well-said; what a word from the Lord! I’ve often thought that the problem relationships face today (regardless of whether they’re heterosexual or homosexual) is that we fail to comprehend the self-less nature of love. We think love is about self-gratification instead of about putting the best interests of the other person first. If we have the other person’s best interests at heart, would we lead them into behavior that ends a marriage, leaves their children with a broken home, or leads to children being born without the support of both a mother and a father? Would we lead them to behavior that separates them from God because He calls it sin? Again, regardless of the specifics of sexual sin, it always seems to be about gratifying self rather than about showing genuine, selfless love toward the other person.

  2. Right on target again, Lori. Thank you.

  3. candidkerry says:


    Thank you for speaking the truth in love. I’m gleaning so much from this series and from your eloquent way of imparting biblical truth through gentle words. Thank you!

    God Bless.

  4. Wow, all of you are incredibly encouraging. Thank you.